I’M having great sex with a woman at work and my life would be great if I wasn’t already engaged, with a baby girl on the way.
I’m 36 and my fiancée is 24. Don’t get me wrong — she’s a really nice girl.
I'm having great sex with a woman at work but I have a baby girl on the way
She was keen from the start and I thought getting married to her would be fun.
I felt lucky to have such a sweet, sexy girl who loved me.
I was happy when she first told me she was expecting. But as the months ticked by, I felt freaked at the thought that I would soon be a dad.
There’s a woman at work I’ve known for a few years. She’s 34 and works in the IT department, while I work in accounts.
We have always got on really well, though just as colleagues and friends. One night I invited her out for a drink after work when I didn’t want to go home.
I told her my life had got out of control and I wasn’t cut out for the parenthood thing. She just laughed and made me laugh too.
We had more to drink and I went back to her place, where we had the most fabulous sex.
This has become quite a regular thing. I’ve told my fiancée that Thursday nights are now lads’ nights, so that has given me some space.
And she doesn’t complain or even ask where I’ve been when I roll home at midnight half-cut.
At first, seeing my colleague was just for the sex.
But my feelings have grown as the date of the birth draws closer. She’s nearly the same age as me and I feel I have much more in common with her than the girl I am meant to be marrying.
If I could turn back the clock I would not be engaged.
Instead I would be having sex every night with the woman I truly love.
I love my fiancée as well but I feel I have made the most awful mistake.
If I could just have two wives, perhaps that would sort this out for me.
DEIDRE SAYS: Would it really? You would still be a dad very soon and that seems to be what is troubling you the most.
It sounds like your new-found affair is a warm place to hide. Your lover distracts you from thoughts of real life while you pretend to yourself you are free to have fun whenever you want, with whoever you choose.
It’s time to grow up. Nobody forced you to get engaged and I’m sure you know how babies are made.
